Tuesday, May 10, 2011

On Graciousness and Hospitality

It has recently come to our attention that some folks think we're gracious and generous.

I'm not exactly arguing with them, but I never really thought about it before and certainly don't think I'm particularly gracious and definitely wouldn't consider myself the most hospitable hostess :)

I guess it depends on your definition, or what definitions you're going by LOL

I'm totally not charming, tactful or delicate, and wouldn't say I was all that tasteful either. I can be generous to a point, but don't think I'm particularly spectacular in that department... I might give you one of my layers and be a little cold if you're freezing, but not the coat off my back if it means I'll freeze.

My hospitality begins and ends with a place stay and a bit of food and water if I have it. I might make some meals for you if I'm already making something for myself, and I might even give some thought about what you'd like when I'm planning dinner. I'll show you where everything is, and if you want something after that, feel free get it yourself. I try to make sure you have the basic amenities for a comfortable stay like a blanket, a wash cloth, a basin and a water jug... but it's not luxury accommodations or anything, there is no maid service or mints on your pillow every night. I don't go out of my way to entertain you.

I'm just willing to help if I'm able and it doesn't put me out too much to do so... that's what I'd expect of any human. But, I guess this mindset isn't that common anymore going by the reactions and comments I get from the folks I've helped out and shared ideas/plans with. It's a sad comment on the state of our society when a recluse with Aspergers, social anxiety and stunted empathy/interpersonal skills like me is considered gracious and generous by comparison.

4 comments:

Dan said...

This recluse with social anxiety and stunted interpersonal skills feels pretty much the same way.

Living in the boonies has made me a better person. I appreciate humans more because I hardly ever see one.

Anonymous said...

Sort of curious what "a recluse with Aspergers, social anxiety and stunted empathy/interpersonal skills" is doing hosting guests?
I don't have any of those things but from your post, sounds like you're a better, warmer, more generous hostess than me!

Plickety Cat said...

You know how it goes... You have a friend, or even just an acquaintance, who thinks living in the sticks is something they want to try, and you already live in the sticks, so why not let them trial run at your place in a slightly more controlled environment than "free range bush" :)

I suspect my practicality may be confused for generosity at times LOL

jason said...

hahaha, I am on my way :)